Wednesday, October 21, 2009


I always thought the man I married would be my rock.

He was supposed to be someone I could turn to in my darkest hour and find comfort.

He was going to be understanding and sympathetic.

Instead, as I lay crying my eyes out next to him because I told him that he never acknowledged my due date when it passed, he says, "What did you want me to do? Give you a card? Tell you Happy Dead Baby Day?"

I'm still stunned. I'm still hurt. I still can't believe that those words came out of his mouth. How can someone be so hurtful and downright mean?

The anniversary of his father's death is coming up on November 1st. I'm wondering how he would feel about a "Happy Dead Dad Day" card? I'll have to check Hallmark to see if they have one but I believe that is one card they won't have.


jill said...

Oh I'm so sorry :(

Maybe you both need to have a talk about things. So many guys hide their feelings and get more stressed out when they feel they can't "fix" what their wife is going through. Not trying to make excuses for him though - that was a very insensitive thing to say. I hope you two can work it out.

jill said...

I tagged you over on my blog. I won't be offended if you don't feel like playing along, but thought maybe it could cheer you up! Hope you are doing better.

hollyli said...

Kate - so sorry that he said that. Men can be insensitive sometimes. I hope you guys have talked about it. Hugs

jlmishler said...

Kate sweetie!!! Sorry about men and their insensitive comments. They tend to hide all their feelings and when they try to express themselves they insert more then just a foot...they insert the whole leg at times. Hugs to you and hopefully you can talk things out!!! Loves!

Yo said...

Oh sweetie--I'm so sorry. Due dates can be do hard. I know your hubby just didn't realize and was probably sad when he realized. Just know that your little one is in good hands now--with my mom and my other three...all being held and cuddled. Hugs to you. Xoxo Yo